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the lion and the dentist (a children’s book)

Once upon a time there lived a proud lion. He loved life so much that he smiled almost all the time, showing his pearly white teeth.

One day he was frolicking through the deep African grass, when he came across a white dentist with a large gun.

The dentist was saying many things about how he wanted to shoot the lion, but in reality he was really very afraid of the lion.

He imagined what the lion’s head would look like hanging boldly on his dental surgery’s wall and all the patients would comment on the lion’s head, saying how brave the dentist was, and how exciting it must of been to have been there to witness the lion being shot, and how victorious the dentist was at his kill.

But this didn’t happen. In fact the dentist got so frightened when he saw the lion, he dropped the gun and ran in the opposite direction. The lion proceeded to chase the dentist. He ran and ran, but could not outrun the lion.

The lion did not hesitate but to kill and eat the dentist!

The lion could taste American hamburgers and mac and cheese. The dentist was so delicious that the lion roared with delight!

What a day the lion had. He went off to tell all the other lions about his kill. All the other lions came to taste the dentist. They were also delighted on how delicious the dentist was.

A week had passed, and a famous toothpaste manufacturer contacted the lion and asked him if he would like to be in a ad for toothpaste. The lion said YES.

The ad was a HUGE success an went on to be used and twenty other countries, as well as Africa. The ad showed kids all over the world, that if you eat well and healthy, you will have strong white teeth, just like the lion.

And if you also brush your teeth you will avoid having to go to a dentist who may very well want to shoot and kill you if he had the chance. And then put your head on a plaque and hang it on the wall of the surgery.

the End.

Cecil the lion

I’m proud to be…(?)

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adjective

Body

My body is part of me, but not all of me.

I suppose I would loosely say: I’m body, mind and spirit.

I include spirit because I feel that for me, spirit a big part of the puzzle of being human.

I’m overweight, and my doctor says I’m ‘obese’ because my BMI (Body Mass Index) is over 30.

Am I proud to be obese? No. Because I don’t equate my body with my identity.

But then maybe, I’m supposed to be proud of being obese(?) I’ve seen TV programs where very large women saying that they are ‘big and proud’.

It ‘seems’ that almost every ‘minority’ or ‘persecuted community’s’ response, is to become proud of being in that community.

I can’t really see any harm in doing that, but is that really necessary?

Sexuality

We have recently had ‘Pride Month’, which is a very positive thing for the LGBTIQ community and for all persons learning about inclusiveness.

I do not equate sexuality with identity, and I also do not equate sexuality with pride.

‘Desire, behaviour and identity are distinct, and they do not always overlap. Someone who is celibate may also have strong sexual desires or even a particular sexual identity; someone may identify as heterosexual but have homosexual experiences; most people will have sexual desires that are not necessarily acted out in practice.’

– Professor Dennis Altman.

…so I don’t understand when people say they are proud to be Gay etc.

I do understand when someone says: “I’m no longer feeling shameful about my sexuality”. Or “I no longer carry all the negative and hateful things that people have said to me about my sexuality”.

We do not choose to whom or what we are sexually attracted to. Even if someone is attracted to children, they don’t choose that for themselves. Sexuality is neither wrong or right it just is. It’s our behaviour that dictates whether something is wrong or right.

I’ve never heard Jeffery Epstein say that he was proud that he was attracted to children. (Remember its behaviour not sexual orientation that’s the issue). Apparently there are plenty of people out there who are attracted to children (men and women) who have never harmed a child.

Sexuality is a significant and a very important part of being human, but it’s not all that I am.

Being an older person my libido is almost non-existent, so sexuality is no longer that important to me. Whereas, when I was young, 20 to 33 years, sexuality was very significant, but I was never proud of it.

I like the way we talk about mental illness these days i.e. I have bipolar disorder, or I’m having a depressive episode. I have alcoholism…

…I am unhappy, becomes there is some unhappiness within me.

So what are examples of being proud?

I’m so proud of the way I brought up my children to respect other people.

I’m really proud of my willingness to get fit and lose weight.

I’m so proud of my garden, and all the years of work I put into it to make it flourish.

I’m proud of myself for all the work I’ve done on letting go of resentment and hatred towards my abuser.

[i] The term ‘LGBTI’ confuses desire, behaviour and identity — and it’s time we rethink it

lying is basically a form of neurosis

What is a neurosis?

Neurotic means you’re afflicted by neurosis, a word that has been in use since the 1700s to describe mental, emotional, or physical reactions that are drastic and irrational. At its root, a neurotic behavior is an automatic, unconscious effort to manage deep anxiety.

1. Revealing the facts.
2. Honestly experiencing feelings and thoughts. 
3. Demythologizing yourself.
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Love is the desire to see unnecessary suffering ameliorated

Truth is the handmaiden of love

Dialogue is the pathway to truth

Humility is recognition of personal insufficiency and the willingness to learn

To learn is to die voluntarily and be born again, in great ways and small

So speech must be untrammeled

So that dialogue can take place

So that we can all humbly learn

So that truth can serve love

So that suffering can be ameliorated

So that we can all stumble forward to the Kingdom of God.

– Jordan B. Peterson

untrammelled/ʌnˈtram(ə)ld/Learn to pronounceadjectiveadjective: untrammeled

  1. not deprived of freedom of action or expression; not restricted or hampered.”a mind untrammelled by convention”

Viktor E. Frankl

I have finally gotten a copy of ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’, as an ‘audio book’, and finished reading it today. I will be reading it again and again, as it’s so good.

man's seach for meaning

“If there is meaning in life at all, then there must be meaning in suffering.”
― Viktor Frankl

“The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”
― Viktor E. Frankl

He says: Instead of constantly trying to avoid suffering, one is to embrace it.

This takes away it’s power over us.
He says this about all our neurotic behaviour.

Go towards it, and it will dissipate.
This make a lot of sense. I need to be brave, to do this.His story and his book, are a huge inspiration for me.

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