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it’s official…I now have chronic wrist pain.

When I was 16, I had a motorbike accident. Right shoulder, both wrists and both knees were affected.

In my mid to late 20s I started getting shoulder pain and wrist pain when working out. At the time I was also a ballroom dance teacher so had even more pressure on my right wrist, so the pain got worse.

Going to the gym was always a problem for me as the wrist would cop a lot of pressure from weightlifting. Anyway, I over the years the pain has come and gone but now it is here to stay!

Living with chronic pain wears me down emotionally, even though it’s early days with the pain being there all the time.

At the moment I’m working on using my left arm as much as possible. This helps so much.

My Aunt has been living with pain most of her adult life and I’ve learnt a lot from her.

Gavin.

Complaining as a substitute for conversation

noun

  1. the expression of dissatisfaction or annoyance about something.”his complaining has been a little bit annoying”

adjective

  1. expressing dissatisfaction or annoyance about something.”she apologized to the complaining crowd”

Literally everywhere I go women are complaining (telling a story about what someone said or did).

This is very widespread and endemic. 

Complaining reinforces victimhood…and victimhood as an identity is very harmful to one’s psyche and self-worth and self-esteem. Believe me I know as I lived as a victim for many years.

Yes. Women have had centuries of abuse and mistreatment. This stuff is very real and long lasting. The only way out is to stop complaining.

Yes. If you have a problem, ask me if you want to share it with me.

Maybe I can help but telling me a story about what someone did or said is not helping either of us.

Men do complain too but not nearly as much as women do.

I’m also writing this post to help me remember to not complain…as it does’t help me.

Gavin.

T is for D-day

Hi Folks,

As you know I got rid of my TV (my Set Top Box), many months ago to prevent myself getting involved with the current government in the USA.

This is essential because last time (2016-2020) I was obsessed with what was happening in the USA…

…so much so it effected my mental health.

So, my actions are about keeping myself sane through the difficult years ahead.

Gavin.

I’ve Been To Bali Too 

Bali is Australia’s favorite holiday destination. Tens on thousand Australian’s go there every year.

But no-one ever says: “I’m going to Indonesia”.

So, when the Bali bombings happened in 2002 I was not one bit surprised.

88 Australians died!!! Yep. This really happened.

Bali is still very much a place where people take their holidays, but still, no-one ever says: “I off to Indonesia, for a holiday”.

The greatest poem ever known

The greatest poem ever known
Is one all poets have outgrown:
The poetry, innate, untold
Of being only four years old.

Still young enough to be a part
Of Nature’s great impulsive heart,
Born comrade of bird, beast and tree
And unselfconscious as the bee-

And yet with lovely reason skilled
Each day new paradise to build
Elate explorer of each sense,
Without dismay, without pretence!

In your unstained transparent eyes
There is no conscience, no surprise:
Life’s queer conundrums you accept,
Your strange Divinity still kept…

And Life, that sets all things in rhyme,
May make you poet, too, in time–
But there were days, O tender elf,
When you were Poetry itself!

Christopher Morley

fantasy as a way of self-soothing

Fantasy was my main coping device for living in a dysfunctional family. Spiderman was one fantasy I had and would spend hours a day being Spiderman, climbing all over the veranda, making sure I wouldn’t touch the ground. Once I was sexually abused from age 6 to 9, I started to fantasy about having sex or be in sexual relationships with others. By the time I hit age 20 I was completely addicted to sexual fantasy and relationship fantasy.

I do have a relatively ‘normal’ fantasy where I have lots of money and a beautiful house and life. The only problem is that I’m still self-soothing with fantasy, instead of connecting with real people.

Gavin.

A fresh look at sexuality

This YouTube video is really informative and interesting about male and female sexuality.

I was particularly interested about female sexuality and how it is so different to males.

women’s ques are internal, and men’s are external. No surprise there…

The desire of the man is for the woman.

The desire of the woman is for the desire of the man.

Version 1.0.0

Men’s top 4 body parts they look up (when looking at porn) are…

  1. Brests
  2. Buttocks
  3. Feet
  4. Penis (large penis)

the origin of the word used to describe unwanted content on the internet: spam

I didn’t know the origin of the word we use almost daily…spam. Now I know it was Monty Python.

…and now AI is now very much taking over the internet. You only have to look at the comments on Facebook, and the AI gives an accurate overview of what people are saying.

Why aren’t we disturbed by this?

RedBubble had bots look over my photos, to find anything they could use to delete my art. This art had been on sale and on their platform for over 20 years.

Not all AI is bad, but we should be aware of this issue.