sedge808

My Wife, My Abuser the Secret Footage 2024

This story is rather distressing (so viewer discretion is advised).

A compelling story of a British man who was abused by his wife.

I made myself watch this as it is (for me) important. The three children in this story are witness to the horrific violence, which is most distressing. Thankfully the mother did plead guilty in the end.

Quote

there are no perfect victims

This quote is very important to me because of my history of being a victim as both a child and an adult.

For a vast amount of time, I saw myself as a perfect victim. Not just innocent but very special because of what happened to me. This specialness meant that I was not responsible for anything that happened to me.

The reality:

  • Anyone can be a victim of sexual abuse.
  • Anyone can perpetrate sexual abuse.
  • The only person responsible for the abuse is the perpetrator.
  • We are all accountable for proactive prevention and how we respond to victims and perpetrators.
  • There is no ‘right way’ to heal or a ‘correct’ response to experiencing sexual abuse.
  • Every survivor and circumstance is unique.‍

Coming out of denial was rather painful because I had to see myself as I really was. Flawed and imperfect.

I see this in online catfish incidents that end up on Netflix. Some of these people see themselves as perfect victims, when in reality they also play a part in the role. Sometimes a big part in that role.

One of the biggest lessons I had to learn in my life was: If I’m over 18 I am responsible for myself and how I feel. All of it.

It sounds a lot easier than it is in reality. G.

International Cat Day

International Cat Day (or World Cat Day) is a celebration dedicated to all cats, observed annually on August 8. In some countries, this celebration is observed on different days.

It was established in 2002 by the International Animal Protection Foundation with the aim of raising awareness about the importance of caring for cats, their protection and well-being, and to honor these animals that have become important companions to humans.