I watched this show with compassion and empathy as much as I could.
I’ve been in love before and the feelings I felt were VERY intense and felt the other person loved me. It was a really enjoyable time of my life. It lasted for almost three years, so it was significant.
But no matter how much I love someone (family or significant other), I would never give anyone thousands of pounds.
The most I’ve ever given anyone was $550 and this person was a friend, not a lover. But today I would not give money to other people.
Feelings are not facts.
My feelings can be stirred as much by imagined as by real causes. Feelings are an emotional reaction to a thought, belief, or perception of a factual situation. By definition they are not facts. (Grow-Mental Health 12 step program).
This is the part of the TV program that really upset me. These people (men and women) were going by their feelings only. They really had no objectiveness about what they were doing.
When it comes to romance behaviors, I have always been very suspicious of romance behaviors. A lot of the time the person doing the romancing, are doing it to try and control another person or to get something from that person.
If someone does something kind towards another without any strings attached, I am more than happy for that to happen. My ex would buy me a bag of chocolate honeycombe. This was a caring and welcome act.
The only thing I felt controlled by, was the sex. The sex was really good, and this had strong effect on me. So, I really lost my objectivity around the sexual part of our relationship.
I’ve been scammed before. YouTube ads worked on me, and I bought things that didn’t work, or they weren’t what they were saying. I felt stupid when it happened.
The people on the TV show hand over a lot of money to these romance scammers. They all said: “well, I love you, so I must trust you”. I understood what they were saying but it didn’t add up. 2 plus 2 is not 22.
For me my feelings can be very intense, but these feelings they are never facts. The feelings will pass eventually.
Feelings are like the weather. They are, in fact, a sort of internal weather. I just have to go on living through its changes as I do with the weather outside – and the bad weather can’t last. (Grow-Mental Health 12 step program).
Gavin.
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Great post Gavin !! On concerning feelings I know that once many years ago I was deeply loved by another and it felt great, so I made the mistake of thinking that ‘I’ was great. I ended up leaving the person just to discover that I was nothing without them.
Oh dear. Sorry to hear this. Must have been a big shock.
Yes, just as your post states, I learned(the hard way), that feelings aren’t facts.
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Oh, I love it. Thanks.
I have similar feels and I believemine are based on being betrayed and trauma. I much betteer with David because he never ask for anything. 🙂 I hope so changes in the weather come our way. 🙂
‘I much better with David because he never ask for anything.’
I love this so much.
and I’m so glad for you too. G
You know life isn’t perfect but I have a good marriage. I had some practice, I was married two other times. The first at 18 years old. That lasted less than a year. Life has taughht me some good lessons. Hugs.
What photo editing tool do you use?
Lightroom
Was it hard to learn?
Yes. Best to do a course in it.
I’m having trouble replying to your last post. Hopefully it will go through on this post.
No, I don’t think he is but neither is Trump. I’m not surprised you have an old fart concerned about when you sleep for a neighbor. Does he come over and voice his displeasure?
I ended up deleting the post. Was a bit too personal. G
I had a feeling that was the answer.