This story is rather distressing (so viewer discretion is advised).
A compelling story of a British man who was abused by his wife.
I made myself watch this as it is (for me) important. The three children in this story are witness to the horrific violence, which is most distressing. Thankfully the mother did plead guilty in the end.
a person or thing with only one special feature, talent, or area of expertise.
Some word experts say the idiom “one-trick pony” comes from the circus. A circus pony that can only do one trick is not going to entertain a crowd for very long. The term “one-trick pony” appeared around the turn of the twentieth century. Within about fifty years, the term had become an idiom.
Away with the Pixies
informal•British English
(see also: away with the fairies)
distracted, in a dreamworld, or out of touch with reality.
“you seem away with the pixies, are you listening?”
Pixies are: playfully impish or mischievous, prankish.
pixie mood; a pixie sense of humor.
The origin of the phrase “away with the pixies” is unclear, but it relates to the folklore of pixies, which dates back to Celtic Britain and is particularly prominent in Southwest England. The idiom, used to describe someone mentally absent or flighty, suggests a connection to fairies taking or captivating people’s minds in folklore. While the phrase isn’t directly from a single source, it draws on the folk belief that pixies were mischievous entities capable of robbing people of their wits, as seen in stories and folklore.
Enen a trained Monkey can do that
We need to be careful that we don’t offend the monkey community while explaining this one.
To all monkeys past and present, we honour you.
It would be phrased as such largely because the person doing it wouldn’t require much intelligence nor oversight – and likely the connotation that the person would also be paid peanuts. Not literally, of course.
All of this imagery is made to offend deliberately, and to derogate those who take these types of jobs.
During war time nostalgia was considered a serious, sometimes fatal, medical condition that included symptoms like anxiety, insomnia, and heart palpitations, and was often treated by returning the soldier home.
While today nostalgia is seen as a benign longing for the past, in the 17th to 19th centuries, it was viewed as a mental illness, particularly among soldiers, and was a precursor to later understandings of conditions like PTSD.
The longing for home and the past served as a psychological coping mechanism for soldiers facing trauma and separation from loved ones.
Historical Understanding and Treatment
A Deadly “Disease”: Originally, nostalgia was described as a physical or mental ailment, with severe cases leading to death. During the American Civil War, over 70 Union soldiers died from nostalgia, and thousands more were diagnosed with the condition.
Symptoms: Soldiers experiencing nostalgia would exhibit symptoms such as anxiety, loss of sleep, loss of appetite, and heart palpitations.
Treatment: The most effective remedy for nostalgia was to send the soldier home, as the condition was believed to be caused by an obsession with home and the longing for the past.
Connection to Trauma: Modern understanding recognizes nostalgia as a psychological response to trauma. The term was used for symptoms now associated with combat fatigue or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Nostalgia as a Coping Mechanism
Emotional Connection: Nostalgia provides a way for soldiers to maintain a connection to loved ones and a familiar past, offering comfort during the stressful and dangerous reality of war.
Motivation for Survival: For many, the desire to return home to their families became a powerful motivation for survival.
Reassurance and Relief: Reminiscing about the past can provide momentary relief from the boredom and impersonal routines of military life and offer emotional reassurance.
But if you want to make your anxiety worse: go out of your way to avoid it.‘Avoidance behaviors’ have the ability to amplify your problem, no matter what it is.
I know this because I have PTSD and anyone with PTSD knows that we have an elaborate list of ways we avoid stuff. The list is long. Here are just a few…
excessive sleeping
alcohol/drugs
binge watching TV shows and movies
obsessive cleaning
overeating
What happens when we do our avoidance stuff, we actually re-enforce the anxiety.
Each time you do the avoidance behavior the anxiety says:
YES! confirmed!
Thank you.
Now I will bring on more anxiety…
…and the cycle just repeats and repeats, sometimes for years or even decades.
The way out of the cycle is to go toward the anxiety (only if it is safe to do so). Going toward the thing you fear is the best way to take away its energy. When this becomes your healthy habit things change significantly.
The opposite of an error is usually the opposite error. – (The Grow Program).
I really wish that someone had told me these lessons. I’m sure life you have been a lot better for me.
Resilient people know that suffering is part of life. Trying to avoid suffering only makes suffering worse. Accept it and move forward, instead of going backwards avoiding all the stuff you find unpleasant.
394263 22: (PUERTO RICO AND GERMANY OUT) A man leaps to his death from a fire and smoke filled Tower One of the World Trade Center September 11, 2001 in New York City after terrorists crashed two hijacked passenger planes into the twin towers. (Photo by Jose Jimenez/Primera Hora/Getty Images)
A liminal space is a transitional place or state of being, literally from the Latin word “limen” meaning “threshold,” that is caught between what was and what will be. These are physical spaces like empty hallways or psychological states like major life changes that evoke a complex mixture of feelings, often an unsettling blend of familiarity, nostalgia, and unease. Examples include waiting rooms, deserted parking lots, or the period of adolescence.
Crack that whip Give the past a slip Step on a crack Break your mama’s back
When a problem comes along You must whip it Before the cream sits out too long You must whip it When something’s going wrong You must whip it
Now whip it Into shape Shape it up Get straight Go forward Move ahead Try to detect it It’s not too late To whip it Whip it good
When a good time turns around You must whip it You will never live it down Unless you whip it No one gets away Until they whip it
I say whip it Whip it good I say whip it Whip it good
Crack that whip Give the past a slip Step on a crack Break your mama’s back
When a problem comes along You must whip it Before the cream sits out too long You must whip it When something’s going wrong You must whip it
Now whip it Into shape Shape it up Get straight Go forward Move ahead Try to detect it It’s not too late To whip it Into shape Shape it up Get straight Go forward Move ahead Try to detect it