[care] less

what I’ve noticed a lot of, over the last two years is, the amount of people who don’t care about other people, and I wonder if it is now a trend in both western culture and society….and also wonder if it has become part of survival.

I also wonder if it has to do with the fact that we now live with the internet and globalization…
…we are constantly bombarded with stories of people dying or being killed…

I wonder if we have become complacent, due to the amount of stuff that goes on in the world?

I wonder if there is only just so much caring we can do?

I wonder if we can only really cope with caring for our friends and family?

I personally lack empathy but I do care about other people.
I can remember the 70’s and people were very caring, and would help just about anyone.

anyway…the main point (for me) about this post is for me to ‘get used to the idea’ of people not caring, and toughen up. let go of my expectations that others caring, and become more accepting of the facts, (of course) not complaining about it.


41 responses to “[care] less

  1. You make a good point, Gavin.
    One of the ironies is that with each improvement in communication and ease of reaching others we in fact seem to communicate less and less in a meaningful way.
    The medium has become its own message.

    My best to You



    • ‘One of the ironies is that with each improvement in communication and ease of reaching others we in fact seem to communicate less and less in a meaningful way.’

      very well said John.
      thank you.

  2. Awe you should come to the south where I live. I’m fortunate to wok for a company that is wonderfully caring for its employees. I feel so blessed. I hope and pray that where you live you are able to see more loving kindness and caring. I know what you mean about the Internet and things have changed as you say but I do believe in miracles and maybe looking at things through new eyes maybe. Just a thought. Even with all the illness and sickness of my girl, we always seem to be blessed with wonderful healthcare workers. Now as of late my girl is really struggling seeing the goodness of man but I never give up believing in the goodness of man. I hope you don’t mind me saying that I feel your wonderful kindness and I hope you feel mine. So we are two and I can think of so many around me on WP that short me with their caring hearts. So I hope and pray they find you. I’m sending warm hugs and love and wishes of all things good to you! 💕😄

      • I wish for you a place like this. When I read our posts my heart instantly felt for you because you should always know caring , compassionate love and be surrounded by it. I wish this and pray this for you. I do’ 💜💟

  3. You are not alone in seeing this change.

    Expectations (I am entitled ! and want it now…. ) seem for me the main reasoning behind the non-caring society we now live in. It is also age related and the attitude to the old by some is shocking; resentment & envy in equal quantities.
    Very poor groups of people that I come into contact with, have some of the happiest and caring individuals one could ever come across.
    The difference being that one group is constantly bombarded with media & the other isn’t….


  4. Not an excuse, but it can be a reason for complacency. We are bombarded with violence and just as those who find themselves in a domestic abuse situation (for instance), there is a tendency to put up barriers – and as a society that’s what we do. By not exposing ourselves we are providing that extra layer of protection. Sad that these will be the times that will be remembered as such. (I DO think those who have less exposure STILL help one another) Thankfully …

  5. I do think we are overwhelmed with the turmoil around us, we are in a sense isolating to protect ourselves. John is right about communication, how much we rely on virtual contact, soon we will never need to meet anyone face to face. Cheers, my friend.

  6. There has always been darkness and pain. There will always be darkness and pain until the day mankind ceases to exist. The difference these days, is we are made hyper-aware of it on a minute-to-minute basis by the almost instantaneous global reach of the media that feeds on negativity and regurgitates sensationalism.

    We also notice the bad more when it invades our little spheres of existence versus some country committing genocide a world away. The horrors of history are countless and unending and people have used a type of stoicism as a coping mechanism. Too much negative input and we suffer a type of social “shell shock” masquerading as indifference. Because our lives are so short, we have no personal frame of reference involving social behavior over the centuries.

    Something to also keep in mind, as we age, our perception of what’s going on around us tends to clarify and we begin to focus more on the things that matter, versus the naive concepts, pointless pursuits and shallow precepts of our youth.

    All this being said; what can we personally do to make society better? Try to keep our heads up, speak out against the wrongs, and be kind and caring in a world that really isn’t going mad— it’s always been mad.

    • I hear you on the stoicism.
      Thank you BG.
      Wonderful comments.
      You write very well.

      I agree about getting older too.
      I’m much more a ‘caring’ person, and a thoughtful person at 50.

  7. In some ways the exposure to so much information, both trivial and serious, is similar to living in a large urban centre. Just as you are exposed to all sorts of messages in an urban environment and brought into contact with a mass of individuals that you never really get to interact on a personal level for a lengthy time, the same can happen through our increasingly diverse and ubiquitous mass media devices.

    Many city dwellers put up a personal wall to restrict interaction with the mass and tune out the exposure a media saturated environment & the density of people . In the past they used newspapers, magazines, portable radios and the blank indifferent commuter stare. Today they use their phones, iPods and digital readers to create the same barrier . In order to not be emotionally overwhelmed or vulnerable they reduce personal connections to a select few and run the risk of disengaging completely.

  8. I could’ve written this! Seriously…I have big issues surrounding these areas. I won’t type it here but I do agree with what you’ve posted. I’ll add that I think there is WAY too much information flying at everyone. Plus dysfunctional parents create dysfunctional children and I wonder if society will produce more and more. It’s so easy to delete someone online. Much harder to do it in person.

  9. Dolefully, I accept that this does seem to be a trend, now. The indifference I meet on the street can be disconcerting. I’ve met more phones than I have people. I tend to prefer solitude, out in nature, over the company of the jockeying phones that hide the human faces looming just behind them. Seems to have worsened over just the past few years, here. I’m not sure whether or not people care less, but people certainly are not as friendly or as courteous. Smiling to a stranger now seems awkward, or even an offense.

    But I’ll continue to stagger on, and I’ll smile, anyway. I still have great conversations with strangers. They are often homeless, and those conversations are some of the best, and the most affecting, that I’ve ever had. And I’ll never stop caring.

    Excellent, thought-provoking post, Sedge. Hope you don’t toughen up too much. All the best and smiling cheers,

    Autumn Jade Toad

  10. I’m a bit amazed at how expectations suck. The worst. Often leaving two sides very disappointed…when it was not necessary at all. Expectations take away from noticing beauty that is actually there. Great post Gavin.

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